Technology is Killing Romance

When I was little, I had elaborate notions of dating. I always had this fantasy of going on a date with my boyfriend to Blockbuster’s. We would walk around the store holding hands, discussing and looking for the perfect romcom. We’d check the movie out for the night- and purchase overpriced snacks- and go back to his place or mine and cuddle up to the latest chick flick. In hindsight, this vision was terribly unrealistic, but I had a good idea: the cute factor, the personable interactions in the beginning, all ending where the main character finally gets the girl and the grand kiss.

That was until, they closed all the Blockbuster stores. Blockbuster disappeared onto the internet and last I checked were some Redbox equivalent (??), but became essentially obsolete. And in their wake: Netflix.

While Blockbuster had a sentimental connotation, we associate Netflix with Netflix and Chill. Movie watching turned into miscommunicated seduction. Am I the only one who thinks it’s a downgrade? I’m an avid Netflix lover but when it comes to dating, it’s kind of disappointing. We traded in an intimate movie choosing experience for one associated with physical situations and that’s exactly translated into the focus of our generation. What happened to the flowers and chocolates and Lloyd Doblers holding boomboxes under our bedroom windows? Maybe the idea is a bit old school but I still find at least something cool in the idea of courtship.

There would be no Netflix if the internet hadn’t evolved into one giant streaming service. And speaking of streaming, perhaps adult films online are keeping a lot of the boys nowadays preoccupied. By the time they get into serious relationships, a lot of them have no idea how to interact. I think they often realize a little too late that maybe, just maybe, life isn’t one big porno.

Aside from dates and “adult streaming habits”, the main thing technology has contributed- or maybe I should consider it taking away- is the situationship. The situationship didn’t exist until the cell phone really. Now people can have an entire relationship through text. High school moves so quickly and the cell phone is just the device to keep up with the pace. The whole “getting to know each other” phase can take place in a matter of days through constant, back and forth messages but it often just equates to false intimacy. By the time these two people see each other again, they may realize it’s nothing like they had imagined. I’ve seen it (and been through it) 1000 times and it’s downright awkward.

I’m not entirely condemning technology, after all you wouldn’t be reading this without it. But we are definitely way too involved in all of the new gadgets and apps and they’re keeping us from really connecting with each other. The takeaway: get to know each other in person- let texts be a supplement (rather than a main channel) to your relationships. Get out and about to enjoy each other’s company. In the long run, we all want what’s real.

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